As most of you know, I am a teacher at Maine South, and among other things work as the press box announcer for the football games. Today, Maine South defeated Loyola Academy in the state semifinal game, 21-14. It is Maine South’s six trip to the state finals in ten years. Maine South enjoys a 27 game winning streak, and can win their second consecutive state title on Saturday.
Their surprising opponent will be Marist, my alma mater. Marist’s tradition in football isn’t quite as good …. they did make a trip down state back in ‘86 (losing to Buffalo Grove), but has not been there since.
I was a long standing and very proud alum of Marist … never missed a homecoming through college and into my first two years of teaching … then I voluntarily left a higher paying job to go back to my alma mater to teach. I donated money to the school when I had very little to give for anything as a college student, and as a young teacher.
What I was not aware of is that the school was getting ready to downsize the teaching staff. That was my fault. I was so thrilled to get back there to teach, I never researched the school situation carefully enough. I lost my job … which I was never bitter about. I was bitter about the way it was handled. We received a letter in our mailbox, with some random company’s logo on the envelope (this was common, as many companies would donate things like that to the school to save money), but it was tactless beyond tact to put termination notices in such an envelope … not to mention even looking “family” members (we were always called the “Marist Family”) in the face and say “sorry, we need to let you go”. Some of these people were members of the family for 20 years, and had been teachers there when I was there. I understood the financial realities which necessitated this move, but never understood the cowardice of the administrators who preached “family”, and then treated their family this way. The students staged a walk out at one point as the principal tried to defend himself. The staff, of course, was too professional to get the students involved, and actively discouraged students from doing this. I remember watching my former history teacher … one of the toughest guys I had ever met, break down crying over what had happened. Another teacher whom I didn’t know very well quit that week without a job lined up. He had worked there his whole career, and refused to accept that this is how professionals are supposed to act let alone, a family.
It was like being a part of a family, and then learning this family which had stood on a strong moral and ethical foundation really didn’t. I know that I have never quite been the same since then. On the one hand, maybe it was a certain naivete … but I have always held that it was more a matter of trust … that I trusted these people to do not what was just … not what was right … but what was commonly decent.
This could be chalked up as a mistake. The administration was run by young administrators at the time …. however no apology for the treatment of these people was ever issued. That hurt more than anything.
When I left, I asked the alumni director to remove my name from the alumni list, and to make sure the school never contacted me again, which they have not. As a student, I had been taught to respect people, especially those who are more vulnerable than you. People who lose their job are pretty darn vulnerable.
So, next Saturday, I will be in Champaign and I will be sitting on the Maine South side of the field, and I will be cheering loudly for my students. It is not out of any hatred for Marist … I have long let go of my anger, and have forgiven. But there is a difference between “forgiveness” and “support”. I have forgiven those who hurt me and more importantly a lot of other people who were hurt deeper. However, I cannot support it in a time that should be celebratory, and I will not divide my loyalty.
